Making love is an integral part of most couple’s lives and while some couples stick to the basic peaches and cream variety of sex, others opt to venture into more dangerous territory, hence rough sex.
But don’t get me wrong; rough sex need not involve violence (unless she’s into that sort of thing), it can be, however, whatever you want it to be and you can take it as far as you and your woman are willing to go.
Mildly sadistic behavior has become a widespread phenomenon in the bedroom and today’s sex tip is all about showing your woman who the boss of the bedroom is. Uh, that would be you, buddy.
she moaned yes!
Now before you delve into all the sexual and potentially torturous fun that you’re all giddy about, keep in mind that this kind of sex must be consented to beforehand.
Whether it’s your long-time girlfriend, wife or a one-night stand, you have to ensure that she’s into the mildly painful event that may come up in the immediate future. And if it’s a first for both of you, establish a safeword that either of you can use if you feel that things are going too far — believe it or not, there may be things that you’re uncomfortable doing to her. The safeword must be a word that you would never use during lovemaking, something like “banana” or “mustard.”
You can either broach the topic whilst in the midst of talkative and mild foreplay or you can talk about it when there’s no sexual escapade occurring. When you’re kissing her, you can start out by holding her hair tightly by the back roots and ask if she enjoys the feeling of it whilst kissing her mouth. If she moans, then you can talk a little more about the adventurous things you’d like to do with her.
The point is to make sure that she’s up for it, otherwise, you might just end up on the receiving end of a bitter reaction.
roughin’ it up
Pain and pleasure are not that different in that they both release endorphins (neurotransmitters — the body’s natural painkillers). Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does a spanking. Endorphins are likely released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. But then again, the pain I’m referring to need not be intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for.
You can be tame, or you can get wild…
For the tame
Light spanking: If she hasn’t yet experienced the ultimate sensation of spanking, approach the act in a gentle manner. Start out by petting and rubbing her butt in a playful manner and lightly slap her butt, immediately returning to petting it. Gradually slap her butt more often and with more intensity. Keep the constant blows to her buttocks at a rhythmic pace — this will have a potentially transcendental effect.
Biting: If done right, biting can provide for some incredibly erotic pleasure. Slowly kiss and eventually start nibbling on different parts of the body including (but not limited to) her neck, shoulders, hips, outer thighs, and buttocks. Depending on her reaction, begin biting with more intensity, but don’t break the skin — that’s not your intention.
Hair pulling: At times, my girlfriend purposely puts her hair in a ponytail or pigtails during foreplay so that I could pull on it while I’m making love to her in the doggy position. Then again, there are those times when she leaves it down and I place my hands at the back of her head, pull her head back by the roots of her hair so that she’s forced to lean back while she’s on top and I get to penetrate her to the fullest extent. Try it.
Hold her down by wrists: There are times when she wants to move her hands all over your body, but don’t let her. Pin her arms down by the wrists and don’t allow her to move them at all. The best place to do this is up against a wall. The next time she enters your lair, hold her wrists above her head with one arm and use the other to place your fingers inside of her while you kiss her intensely. A great lead-in for the aforementioned tips.
For the wild
Handcuffs: It’s one thing to pin her hands down, it’s a whole other ballgame when you handcuff her to an inanimate object like the bedpost. What’s even better than handcuffs is tethers. Tie down her arms and legs and have your way with her. You can spank, tease, or even torture her by massaging her entire body with a vibrator. Point is that she’s completely submissive to your whim.
Whipping: Obedience at its finest calls for a little bit of discipline. Instead of simply putting her over your knee and spanking her, why not show her that she’s been misbehaving by giving her a little whipping? If you do it just right, she’ll be throbbing and begging you to take her.
Choking: Because choking reduces the flow of oxygen to the brain, and results in somewhat of a hallucinogenic state, it has developed into a fetish for many people. Although it could be dangerous, if you simply hold her neck rather than actually choke her, it could provide that sensation of submission and control. Please be very careful and proceed with caution when it comes to asphyxiation.
Hard to get: This is most women’s number one fantasy. She acts like she doesn’t want to make love and you force yourself on her. Again, I have to emphasize that this is acting and she has already consented to this act beforehand. She tries her damnedest to push you off of her and keep you from penetrating her and you try your hardest to get inside. After removing her clothes (some women enjoy dressing up in tattered clothing so that their men can rip it off) and finally getting inside while she’s whispering and moaning “no,” make your way to her ear and whisper, “yes…”
sugar and spice
Of course, there are more ways to get rough with your significant other, but these suggestions will definitely open up a venue to a host of other ways to enjoy a little rough and tough sexual behavior.
Until next time, show her your dangerous side and pique her interest in a whole new way.